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Keys To Happiness

User2 — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 13:03:40 +0000

Are you happy with your life or, indeed, with yourself? The chances are that there are things that you would want to alter in both you and your life – I’ve rarely encounter anybody who is one hundred percent happy. Of course, people sometimes think that if they improve themselves, get fit, buy a new car, have really cool holidays that, then, they’ll be happy. But, that ‘happy’, however, is superficial and passing. True happiness should be lasting and not based on having this or doing that.

The one place that you will find happiness is within. Unfortunately, that is a foreign country to protected from them by what psychology calls ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we all have which prevents other people getting into our heads to brainwash us. Unfortunately, this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out too! For a very good reason – or, at least, it appears like a good idea until you take a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world operates and who we are are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with those, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe ourselves to be inadequate at least in some way, most of us aren’t totally happy with who we are. That’s because our beliefs aren’t grounded in fact but on an accumulation of what we call the programming or conditioning that we were subject to during what is generally described as our formative years. This programming or conditioning is both the source of your discomfort with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you perceive to be wrong in your life.

What passes for reality is created by our beliefs – it is those beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with others. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our take on reality. What’s going on in your head, at the deepest subconscious level, quite literally creates your life. And it ain’t real, it’s made up from what others did for us or to us during those formative years. So of course you want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.

You’ve got to go beyond your beliefs. You need to get to the real, inner you, to find true happiness – that is where you will unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unspoilt by the deeply held beliefs that mess up our normal lives – silly beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you have to work hard to succeed, like pleasure/pain principle, that all laughing comes to crying – I’m sure you’ve got your own list.

Forget all that nonsense. Also, forget about who you believed you were and discover who you really are – and the wonderful life that you can really have. Your mind’s been focused on normal crap – stop it. I teach my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you need to calm down, wake up and see the light. And then you will find complete happiness.

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Depression – Kick The Habit

User2 — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 20:16:46 +0000

Although the effects of depression may be all too obvious for you, depression isn’t real. If you think that you’re suffering from depression, you’re only imagining it because depression is the direct result of your subconscious mind’s obsession with useless thoughts that were impressed upon it during your childhood years. It is normal for your subconscious mind to live in the past – everyone’s does – it’s just that the nonsense that yours is focused on is probably a little (or a lot) out of the ordinary. Of course, that’s not your fault – your subconscious mind was impressed with these thoughts by others, people and events that made you feel worthless, guilty, upset during your childhood years.

Whilst it’s normal for your subconscious to dwell on past deeply-rooted thoughts, it’s doing you damage – you have the evidence of it in your daily life. Again, you shouldn’t feel bad about this – everyone’s subconscious mind is doing the same damage – at least you have the advantage over others in realizing that you’ve got a problem.

But that problem is solely down to what your subconscious mind is thinking about. What you have to do is tear your mind away from those self-destructive thoughts and redirect your attention to the only time and place that is actually real, the one place and time that you can actually live – the here and now. If you manage to turn your attention to the present moment you will experience something that you probably have never experienced before – depression is an illusion, there’s no such thing as fear or worry, there’s simply this world full of possibilities and opportunity – and quantum physics proves that this wonderful world is simply waiting to respond to your hopes and dreams.

Pills or medication will not enable you experience the difference between reality and the fiction of stress – they might make the pain vanish for a while but your subconscious mind will always slink back to the old, out-dated thoughts that aren’t real but just an imprint of your own ancient history. The only way in which you will experience reality – one without depression – is to learn how to clear your mind. No hassle! Because, as a youngster, you had a totally clear mind – that’s how those bad feelings were impressed upon you in the first place. All you must to do now is re-train yourself to focus on what your five senses are telling you, right here, right now – without adding your subconscious mind’s warped interpretation onto the facts.

I believe that the best way to relearn how to pay attention to the reality of the here and now is meditation – preferably, for starters, guided meditation. It may take you a while to get used to it, you may find it difficult, but a small amount of commitment will yield the enormous benefit of your being able to live your life to the full.

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Personal Effectiveness: The Meaning Of Awareness

User2 — Fri, 28 May 2010 14:33:52 +0000

I get these strange comments to some of my posts. I recently posted a piece on the importance of paying attention to the here and now, which made the point that it’s the only time and place that you can be – and if you couldn’t be bothered to turn up to the reality of the here and now, how can you reasonably expect to get anything much out of life. I received a comment – from someone who signed themselves as a “personal development expert” said that, OK, the here and now is all very well – but really personal development is about choice and awareness.

So, here’s the big question: What is Awareness? Let’s make it even easier – what can you be aware of at any particular point in time? Of course, you could be aware of your thoughts – most people aren’t because, as decades of research prove, most people aren’t aware of anything much at all. You could be aware that you’re feeling frustrated or fearful – but these so-called emotions are nothing more than the product of the thoughts that you’re not aware of in the first place. You could be aware of how you feel about yourself – your own self-image – but that’s not awareness, that’s getting involved in the continuous internal power struggle between you and your personality (remember, personality is dervided from the Latin word, “persona”, meaning a mask and your personality is simply the amalgamation of all the personal “snapshots” you took as a child).

Real awareness is being aware of the here and now. To paraphrase the Buddha, when I am walking, I am aware that I am putting one foot in front of the other. Only in the present moment will you find reality. In fact – scientific fact as probed by quantum physics – only in the present moment does anything exist and all that exists is changing moment to moment.

And what of the choice we must make? We have a stark choice that has a fundamental impact on our lives – we can choose to be aware or we can (and this is the mindless choice made by normal people) choose to live in a make-believe world created by our own, predominantly negative, thoughts. This is a choice that we must make time and again, in each moment because no one becomes aware and stays aware – it is a continual in exactly the same way that the reality of the world in which we live is an ongoing process.

The life you are living is how it is as a result of your action, reaction or inaction in the present moment. The normal person reacts to their own thoughts and perceptions. The extraordinarily successful person acts on the basis of the facts in the moment and, as a result, creates a life that is exciting, spontaneous, adventurous, fulfilled and successful. Now, do you think you might be up to making that choice?

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A Road To Possibilities

User2 — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 03:48:46 +0000

A road of possibilities, a road of success, challenges, dreams, goals, change, focus,

A road of what if’s

What if I do this or if I do that, What if I don’t do this, or that.

What if.

The road of possibilities to go down and dare to dream, dare to try different things, to think out of the box, do what you want and not what you feel is expected of you.

Start to think that anything is possible and nothing is impossible. The only thing that could be seen as impossible is the things you have not tried or completed the action of doing.

A road of possibilities keeps moving forward and enjoys each moment along the way, enjoys each experience, because each experience teaches you something different.

If you do not get something right the first time them all that is telling you is that you need to try another way of doing it, it is not telling you that you should stop and give up.

A road of possibilities is your story so you can put what you want in it. You can be whatever you want to be. You can have whatever you want to have and you can do whatever you want to do because it is your story.

A road of possibilities, visualize what is your journey will be like, visualize what it would look like, visualize what it will feel like.

What house, will you have in your World?
What car will you drive?
What will you do to create your finances? and
What tools will you require to help?

Visualize how you want your world to look and start working towards turning your dreams your reality.

Start working towards the things that you have always wanted to do in your life but never thought it possible or thought that it was for the other person and not for you.

Well it is for you and you can do it whatever it is. You have the ability to make your dreams come true.

You need to start believing in yourself and that you can do it and you can make it happen, you and only your have the power to turn your dreams into your reality.

But first you must start believing that you can do it and that you deserve it before you can start to receive it.

Jennifer is a passionate Solutions Focused Life Coach and author that believe that the possibilities in life are unlimited and that we all have the power within us and the knowledge of this can only empower and motivate individuals.

Jennifer believes that if we change out thinking we can also change our lives. She states that she herself is work in progress and also looking to improve her techniques and strategies in order to pass this information onto others.

This is done in the form of articles, e-books, and motivational products which can be given as gifts, visit the store and website and see.

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Depression – Kick The Habit

Learn About Affirmations For Wealth|

User2 — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 08:30:41 +0000

affirmations for wealth can be an easy thing to use. like almost any other hobby, it takes some time to become good.

I see most people who are on the verge of success, giving up because they are used to things not working out for them,finally they end up blocking the goods and riches waiting outside their doors.

affirmations wealth techniques are meant to help you in finding your own personal strength, not substitute it. I think that is the most common error people make when applying affirmations for wealth.

It’s like the magic feather Dambo uses. The power is always inside of you. Affirmations are just meant to help you realize it more easily.

affirmations and emotions:

Even though positive affirmations are meant to be stored in your subconscious mind, they do not grant you the strength. They just help you see it.

Because of that reason, it is important to choose affirmations for wealth or whatever subject you would like to enhance, by your emotional relationship to them. This is a process of working from the inside out

Let’s say I’m broke and want to be abundant. My feeling at the present moment is that I’m poor. trying a positive affirmation that says “I am a billionaire” might not be the right pick right now. I know that eventually you want to get there. But you can’t bridge two opposites right away.

You have to start building momentum step by step. Maybe becoming a billionaire is not the best place to begin. But a little extra money could be

Start focusing on what you can do with what you have, Or choose a subject that is more believable to you, like “I end every month with money left to do things I love”
That is a very different affirmation for wealth. It’s a little closer to home base I know that seems like a small difference. But once you see evidence of abundance, even a small amount happening in your life.

Your confidence will grow, and it will become easier to use affirmations for bigger better stuff. Everything is really an issue of confidence when it comes to wealth and success. I’m speaking of real confidence, not fooling yourself you are confident as almost everyone does.

Affirmations for wealth can teach you how to truly feel confident. once you feel it ,you begging enjoying it in your life. That is why rich people get richer and the poor get poorer. It is all about how they feel about their state of being.

I would also advise reading more about the subject. There are hundreds of articles out there that can give you more tools to understand more clearly how to use affirmations .

It doesn’t matter what part of life you are looking to turn around, weather it be wealth, health or any subjectpossible.

Affirmations for wealth can help you turn your life towards a positive nurturing way.

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Are You Up For A Challenge To Achieve Your Wildest Dream?

User2 — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 01:16:16 +0000

2009 has been a fast, challenging and for some a painful year.

And, if you are tired of constantly threatened by debt, fearful of the economic crisis, and paralyzed by the pace of change, I’ve got a great way for you to take control of your life and start the new year off with a bang.

I want to thrown down a challenge. I want to provide you with an opportunity to redeem yourself and turn things around for the better, and I mean much better. If you agree with me, one thing we all have in common is that we all strive under a challenge!

For some it could be a desire that puts you to the test, an obstacle that says you cannot beat me, a belief system that is begging for a breakthrough, or even a mountain that just dares you to climb it.

Whatever it is, your should say “BRING IT ON!” There is nothing quite like a good old fashioned challenge to see what you are made, to push the boundaries and tests your limits. It is ONLY when we overcome these trials that we get to reap the sweetest success.

My colleague, Gary Ryan Blair, otherwise know as The Goals Guy, has put together what I believe to be the most comprehensive blueprint to goal setting and performance enhancement.

The Goals Guy has been working with executives and employees at Coca-Cola, American Express, IBM, Starbucks, Time Warner, Disney, and many more, coaching them exactly how set and reach their goals – if he can do it for them, he can do it for you and your company.

Many of the top leaders in just about every industry call on the Goals Guy when trying to develop and execute on certain goals. It is so much simpler when you know HOW to create a workable plan and can create accountability and that, is where he excels.

Back to your goals and the challenge. Gary has created a powerful program that will show you how to make maximum performance gains in the shortest time possible. It is very effective yet very affordable.

I think it is a no brainer if are serious about making changes and starting the year fast and strong, then you simply must check out this program.

It’s called the 100 Day Challenge and it begins on January 11th. It is a downloadable video and audio program where Gary literally coaches you towards achieving your goals — the RIGHT WAY!

I recommend the program, I recommend that you download the Special Report, and more importantly I recommend Gary. So make sure to go to www.100Day-Challenge.com.

And put yourself and your family in the best possible position. Also, make sure to watch his video.

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Common Sense Self Help Tips For Addiction

User2 — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 03:30:22 +0000

Alcohol addiction is a grave social concern and many countries have initiated programs to bring awareness among people about drinking and its harmful consequences. Getting out of this crucial habit is effective by self help to stop drinking. Self help to stop drinking might be an efficient way to get relieved from this habit. However, self realization promotes self help to stop drinking. Despite attending educational and awareness programs and combining it with mental and physical workouts, many people face a tough period in quitting this awful habit. Drinking affects the personality of a person in many ways. Conversely, adhering to certain self help programs can truly keep people away from drinking.

Firm determination – Weak mind results in bad habits. People can handle tough situations, but weaker minds get succumbed to drugs or alcohol abuse. Firm determination is the main key to self help to stop drinking to a great extent. However, following the counselor’s directives religiously will certainly put an end to drinking gradually and assist in the self help program. A couple of meetings with counselor strengthen the level of determination.

Meeting a counselor – People keen to stop drinking are mostly unable to comprehend where and how to begin. In cases like this it is appropriate to have a meeting with a counselor. He can help in discussing the addiction problem and ensure relaxation. This step is very important and professionals can provide solutions and guidelines to say adieu to drinking. Anyway, the self help guidelines if followed regularly and meticulously might provide good results in overcoming the addiction of drinking alcohol.

Entertaining the mind – The most effective ways of quitting a habit is by entertaining the mind in some other activity that completely leaves no room and time to get diverted towards drinking. Self help to stop drinking is a determined act, but initially triggers drinking at every act. Hence, entertaining and keeping engaged by involving in sports or any other voluntary services helps in devoting time appropriately. Such engagements do not allow time to encourage habits such as drinking. Moreover, the determination of following the self help tips enhances the sense of responsibility such that alcohol is left behind unknowingly.

Practice meditation and yoga-meditation and yoga therapies are effective remedies for many physical and mental ailments. Taking steps towards self help to stop drinking is an accomplishment and boosting the mind and body to endure stress, exhibits firm determination. Meditation encourages concentration of the mind on helpful matters such as to stop drinking and keeps the brain at ease. On the other hand, yoga assists in removing toxins from the body and the breathing exercises brings control. This treatment is universally accepted method as it has positive effects. Ensure visiting a professional to acquire training to practice meditation and yoga to support your self help program.

Assisting and promoting self-concerns regarding quitting liquor involves awareness of health hazards due to drinking. Self help to stop drinking should be assisted with the advice of professionals in promoting self realization by opening the consequences. Keeping away from addicted people is itself an accomplishment towards quitting the addiction. Anything provoking drinking should be kept at a great distance and concentration towards stop drinking will assist in getting rid of this deadly habit.

Comprehending the fact that more than any other measure , it is the self help behavior that will keep a check on the unwanted acts. Trying these guidelines will be of immense assistance in self help to stop drinking and to make life peaceful. This change should improve the quality of your life.

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Brain Evolution System Reviewed.

User2 — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 12:11:46 +0000

It says it can grant you LIMITLESS ENERGY, help you to think like a GENIUS, and enable you to RELEASE all stresses and tension.

It’s called the Brain Evolution System – a six-level meditation program that uses special sounds to help influence brainwaves.

Now, in the self-development world, everybody knows that meditation is GOOD.

It can bring a million untold benefits. And yet how many of us truly have time to quieten our minds for hours on end each day?

Well, that’s where the Brain Evolution System comes in.

The Brain Evolution System – or BrainEv, for short – uses something known as “Auditory Stimulation” to help skip years of unnecessary meditation.

It uses specially manipulated sounds to help influence brainwaves, putting the mind into a deep state of meditation within minutes of listening – removing the need for countless hours of mind-quietening, Zen-monk-like practice.

But we’ve heard all of this before – with ineffective programs such as Holosync and Hemi-Sync.

What sets BrainEv apart from it’s competitors, claim the developers, is it’s patent-pending 3 Point Dynamic Entrainment Audio Process. This means BrainEv uses three different entrainment methods at the same time – stopping the brain getting too accustomed to one particular pattern, and more closely-matching how brainwaves really work.

Sounds impressive… But does the Brain Evolution System really live up to its claims?

Well, to put it to the test – I decided to try it myself for two whole months!

To begin, I ordered the entire package from the official website Brainwave Entrainment

Now, before even using the program, I was impressed at the integrity of the company. I was immediately given a free 21-day trial of level one, with an option to cancel before I was billed a single cent.

So, I tried it out.

The first level can only be described as a true soundscape. With it’s natural, “distant” etheric feel, you could tell a million things were going on in the background – yet couldn’t help but just relax and let them float by.

Now, I’ve listened to a lot of relaxation music – so I’m used to trickling waterfalls and singing bowls. But this audio was genuinely POWERFUL. You could feel it working, influencing your Brain Evolution System, and helping you to relax further.

It’s recommended you listen to each 30-minute level once per day, six days a week, for a whole month. Then you move onto the next level – finishing all six levels within six months.

Well, after my first listening session, I instantly felt more relaxed. My head was less “foggy” – and I enjoyed a focus and clarity I’d not experienced in quite some time. It’s hard to explain, however I had a smile on my face – and didn’t really know why!

I continued throughout the first month – and saw a truly noticeable difference in my behavior. I became more and more relaxed and calm. My brain seemed to operate faster, and I became more quick-witted. My confidence continued to improve, without any real effort.

Then, near the end of the first month, the full CD package landed at my door.

This was a professionally-packaged six-CD set, with a user guide, and a free two month supply of the mind-sharpening Acuity supplement – specially designed to help “fuel” the mind when using BrainEv.

During the second month, I worked with level two. And I can honestly say that – again – I began noticing real differences.

Now, I’m not a person that enjoys writing positive reviews. It’s much easier to slander than praise. But once again, the Brain Evolution System made a very definite, positive impact.

Colleagues commented on my permanent state of happiness. I felt much more relaxed, even during the most stressed-out periods of my day. My thinking speed DEFINITELY increased – and the tablets helped boost my focus even further. Creative spurts increased. My reading speed rocketed. I found myself coming up with more elegant solutions to problems. I also found myself soaking up information more rapidly than before.

And another thing: I began waking up after just five hours of sleep. This simple meditation program was reducing my usual EIGHT HOURS down to just five – thanks to 30 minutes of listening, six times a week.

So, does the Brain Evolution System work?

During my two-month trial, it genuinely delivered an impressive set of results – all exactly as promised.

It helped SHARPEN my mind, REDUCE my stress levels, and INCREASE my energy.

Yes, I’ve tried meditation programs and brainwave CDs before, but never with the powerful results that the Brain Evolution System provided.

The developers claim that’s down to the fact that it utilizes a “3 Point Dynamic Entrainment Audio Process” to influence Auditory Stimulation. They provide a series of fancy graphics and video features to explain it all in greater detail. They even provide online support videos for each progressive level.

I’m not entirely sure what all of that really means.

But what I do know is that the Brain Evolution System helped clear the foggy mind of a usually critical reviewer.

And – at least for me – that’s worth the price-tag a hundred times over.

(Oh, and yes – you can be sure I’ll continue using this package right through to level six!)

BrainEv Pros: Powerful results, professional package, round-the-clock support.

BrainEv Cons: Still requires 30 minutes of your time, 6 days a week.

Verdict: BUY IT, without hesitation!
Brain Evolution System

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Quit Smoking Help For The Brain

Why I love Recovery Meetings

brandi — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 05:39:34 +0000

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If you are trying to decide if you should go to a recovery meeting, stop thinking and just go. As they say in Recovery if you think you dont need a meeting that is when you need one the most. When I was a teenager I was introduced to Narcotics Anonymous. I did not think I had a problem I was just having fun like everyone else. I didnt realize I had lost trust from friends and family because of my lifestyle. I made excuses for myself.

Drugs are really never the reason for your problems. Your problems are a result of not dealing with issues and feelings that you have (which has probably led to drugs/alcohol).

Life seems to go so fast and most people really never take the time to get to know themselves and why they do the things they do. NA or AA is not a place where people get together to convince one another to stop using drugs. NA is a place where you learn the tools to deal with your problems and take the time to get to know yourself.

The 12 Steps of NA/AA are so simple and you may think you can read them and know all the answers. People at NA/AA spend weeks or months on every step. The very first step is “We admitted we were powerless over our addiction that our lives had become unmanageable.”

The 12 step program was actually based on the Beatitudes in the Bible. It says “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
The first step simply means “I need help- I cant do it alone.”

The secret is simple we must discover our soft spot, our weak link, our ignorant area and we must become “poor in spirit”, humble our attitude, acknowledge our weakness and ask for help.

Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous are such great programs. I do not regret my past, afterall it brought me to Meetings.

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Where to start?

brandi — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 05:37:27 +0000

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What do you do early on in recovery. Where do you start when you finally make the decision that this way of life isn’t working? There are several schools of thought on this but here are a few ideas.

Change your playmates and playgrounds. I have learned from personal experience that this is probably number one on the list. I’ve read that the number one reason for relapse is simply someone making an offer. Either “Do you need any? I’m holding.” or “Some of the guys from work are going down to the bar. You wanna come?”. Especially early on, you need to stay away from people and places you used to use your DOC.

Get involved in a recovery program. For most people, you’re not gonna have any long-term success by yourself. For the Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous it’s go to meeting. 90 meetings in 90 days is what they say. Why? Because when you force the body to go, the mind will follow. They even say it’s ok to show up drunk or high. When you get involved in a recovery program of some kind, eventually, it will sink in.

Read up on addiction. There is a huge amount of information on the subject out on the internet or even the “Big Book” for some.

Make your recovery number one in your life. It has to be the highest priority for you. When you get out of bed say to yourself “I don’t know what all will happen today, but today I will not use/drink”.

There are many more. I’ll get back to this subject in the future.

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