Are you happy with your life or, indeed, with yourself? The chances are that there are things that you would want to alter in both you and your life – I’ve rarely encounter anybody who is one hundred percent happy. Of course, people sometimes think that if they improve themselves, get fit, buy a new car, have really cool holidays that, then, they’ll be happy. But, that ‘happy’, however, is superficial and passing. True happiness should be lasting and not based on having this or doing that.
The one place that you will find happiness is within. Unfortunately, that is a foreign country to protected from them by what psychology calls ‘The Sentry’, a defence mechanism that we all have which prevents other people getting into our heads to brainwash us. Unfortunately, this ‘Sentry’ keeps us out too! For a very good reason – or, at least, it appears like a good idea until you take a closer look at how we operate – our beliefs about how the world operates and who we are are stored in our subconscious. You wouldn’t want to go messing with those, would you? Or would you? Because most of us believe ourselves to be inadequate at least in some way, most of us aren’t totally happy with who we are. That’s because our beliefs aren’t grounded in fact but on an accumulation of what we call the programming or conditioning that we were subject to during what is generally described as our formative years. This programming or conditioning is both the source of your discomfort with yourself and, just as importantly, everything that you perceive to be wrong in your life.
What passes for reality is created by our beliefs – it is those beliefs that automatically dictate our behaviour, our actions, our reactions and our interactions with others. It is through this process that we, ourselves, create our take on reality. What’s going on in your head, at the deepest subconscious level, quite literally creates your life. And it ain’t real, it’s made up from what others did for us or to us during those formative years. So of course you want to go messing with your beliefs, because normal beliefs hold normal people back.
You’ve got to go beyond your beliefs. You need to get to the real, inner you, to find true happiness – that is where you will unearth a you that is unstained by the crap of normal conditioning, unspoilt by the deeply held beliefs that mess up our normal lives – silly beliefs that keep us in our place – like we should know our place, like you have to work hard to succeed, like pleasure/pain principle, that all laughing comes to crying – I’m sure you’ve got your own list.
Forget all that nonsense. Also, forget about who you believed you were and discover who you really are – and the wonderful life that you can really have. Your mind’s been focused on normal crap – stop it. I teach my clients various forms of ‘mental calming measures’ – meditation if you will – you need to calm down, wake up and see the light. And then you will find complete happiness.
