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April 3, 2010

Personal Growth- Alterations And Personal Development Creates A More Positive Life

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 2:01 am

Personal growth is unique for all people. It is because we are unique individuals and it is how we see ourselves rather than how we see other people. Personal growth is about us and our expectations for achieving our goals and what we are seeking in life. What is really compelling is how we feel about ourselves, our real self. Not any of us are born with all of the abilities to mount every situation in our life single handily. I believe it is something that progresses as we live and learn. Not everyone sees the need for growth in their life and they are offended if someone mentions it. To me, success and a beautiful life is finding out that life can be dealt with better when we seek personal change and personal development. It means we are smart in that we know it can only bring us more well-being in life.

One can only seek within themselves for their need as only they know or can learn exactly what might be lacking or that they are possibly stranded in a rut in their life. We cannot look at other people and measure our success or how we need to perform or act. We are being unfair and unwise if we choose to do the latter. If I were to try to judge or duplicate my life pattern after my friend; it could lead to self destruction because our life has had different strategies from birth until now. The reason my friend may have progressed further in some areas of life than I have, may be because they may have had different blessing that I may not have had. We may have had different expectations, different perspectives, and different views of what might be most important in life at some points. The main goal I think is to really know what is of value in life. Values of life are not totally about having “money” or “wealth.” It is who we are and what we have done with the dash between the two dates on our tombstone…I’ll just bet you have heard that one.

I believe we must ask ourselves if we are happy with whom we are? Do we feel that our reaction toward life in general is appropriate? personal change and Growth means it is something about us that we want to be improved, something we would like to be rid of or something that needs to be less noticeable, if possible. It could be as simple as needing to be more aware of other people’s needs. This could be something that comes when we are trying to manage other people in our professional life. Are we totally focused on getting the job done at all cost; without noticing why an employee screwed up the plan? Being sensitive to other people’s needs will enrich your ability to be an influence to your staff. To me it takes a manager who is aware that the job cannot be done without a team effort of his or hers and the employees. An employee cannot feel comfortable to perform if they are afraid of criticism from the boss. Their performance will be lacking their best efforts due to the stress of “nothing is going to right” for the boss.

Our life should have some kind of plan, we have to know, the best we can what that plan is; that is if we are seeking to better our life. An individual cannot totally dwell only on themselves to be successful. We have to depend upon others in most parts of our life. Family, friend, career, personal life, spiritual life etc… No one lives and dwells by themselves; life is filled with other people that we must interact with. We must trust, and take a chance on others and if we cannot live quietly with others; then we may need to seek more personal development.

Change is probably necessary to improve. Life is about change and without change we are not going to grow. Most people have a blurred vision to change. It means I have to learn and do something different and I am used to doing it this way and I don’t like the fact it is changing….we have heard this at least a few time. Most of the time I think we become unhappy with change as we have either grown careless with our life or we are just plain old lazy and it could be because we are not taking life seriously. This is when we definitely need to “change” our views on life. At some point it will come home to haunt us. In my book; not anyone is too good for change!!!

March 25, 2010

Observe Beneath The Surface To Find Our Unseen Potential

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This subject is not new; in fact it has been around since about the 1960’s when the full potential movement and growing personally began to surface. So I am not giving any new awareness in these pages; but a brush up course.

Most of us from time to time realize something might be missing in our life. We are not sure exactly what it is, all we know is, something is just not as it should be. After writing some articles about personal growth, I have found that so many people have lost their perception of whom they are and where they want to go. They are aware to some degree of their capabilities; but getting out of the deep freeze is not always easy. Then there are some who forget that we are all born with power . So for those….I say, you have what it takes to succeed. You and only you must have courage, which may be dormant also, just like your potential to make your life more enjoyable. You can unlock yourself, start hearing your heart and soul messages. if you really listen to your own soul; I believe you will make the right moves in your life. You spiritual self, your soul will usually tell you when you are doing something right or wrong. There is no feeling like the good feeling that you feel when you now you have made the right choice. Listen to it or try to learn to. Let go of fear, and remember that struggles help us grow stronger. You can find many ways to help yourself become more aware of what you might need; and get yourself a Life Coach, if you are not getting anywhere on your own.

What exactly is Potential and Capabilities? Let’s start with this in mind….

Potential is something that is sometimes: hidden, dormant, undeveloped, not recognized but promising. It is definitely the following: inherent, possible, probably, ability, power, capacity and many other things.

If you are misleading yourself from discovering your full potential, please stop doing that. Find the courage to seek further within yourself for this important piece of pie that you have been given by the Divine. Look to your spiritual self and deep within your soul to be enriched with a new found power to set on fire the dormant potential that may need awakening.

A capability is described as: ability to perform, competence. Capacity is the general ability to comprehend an issue or perform a task. Capability implies a reference to one set of such abilities.

There is nothing wrong with wanting or being pretty, (this is only one example of how we deviate from what is important sometimes) but if we have not opened our mind to what is more important in life; then we not only do not know the true meaning of beauty, but our knowledge has somehow been misconstrued. There are other examples that we can get side tracked with which hinder our growth and keep us in the everyday rut of not reaching for full potential. But, if you are reading this, then somehow you desire to know more. If one is satisfied where they are and do not intend to progress…it is their life, their success and their decision.

Being clear on our priorities is one step forward, clearing out the cobwebs in our mind that we have to be like others and having the ability to stand alone with our values (if they are different), and being firm with our statement of who we are. A person, who has to go along with the crowd, has lost their ability to be true to themselves. I know it is not easy to say, I have a different view from the majority, but it is one of the most intellectual decisions one can make. Kind of like when you were in your teens and you were leaving the house and your Mom said in that soft, sweet voice…. “Remember who “you” are!” That is the best advice I have ever heard….

March 8, 2010

Do You Let Fear Of Change Dominate Your Ability Of Life

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Fear sometimes keeps an individual from doing something that could change their life for the good forever, yet it is sometimes hard to recognize, control and overcome. One of the greatest fears is rejection. We do not want to feel rejection so sometimes we will not follow our heart because of it. We also fear inadequacy not realizing that failure is a part of life. If we had no failure, we would be at a perfect state in life and that does not exist. Adjustments in life are many and about many conditions of our life to include but not limited to; relationships, careers, personal growth, becoming a better person, changing our concept of life, spiritual growth, learning how to cope with a disabled child, letting our kids fight their own battles and many other situations in life. We could discuss this issue very extensively but we will actually touch only a couple of things in this article.

I have seen parents have fears for their children and they want them to have the best, the absolute best, meaning no hardships, no interference in life, nothing to upset them; and I am talking about grown children. If something negative happens or someone says something they feel is prejudiced toward them, they are ready to jump into the battle without being invited. They have never let go and they need to let the Rejection thoughts subside and change their behavior. The children are not under their watch any longer and they cannot go through their entire life trying to fight life’s battles for their children. No one can make it through life without having conflict and no one’s children deserve this behavior and they are not enabling their abilities to cope with life. They will have struggles and they will have to work through them, themselves; and remember that to live in our world as it is; this is a phase of life where we learn about ourselves and others.

I am sure there is no perfect formula to prevent the fear of change or failure or the other emotions we feel. What I do know and have learned; is that when we make a decision to do something we fear; it gives us the power and capacity to do it. It is like once we make the decision and we become fully equipped to make it happen, so that means that our biggest fear is not that we can’t make it happen, but in wondering if it is the right judgment.

We could use as an example an unhappy partner needs to make a change regarding finances in the relationship. The situation is causing frustration and bickering; tearing them away inside and it has to be stopped. The guilty spouse is simply spending loads of money depleting their saving and being wasteful. The not guilty party is trying to be level headed and fears that the guilty party is being selfish yet knows this can’t be said; so they let it go. Where and how it is going to be resolved must be decided and acted upon.

First decision needed is to tackle the fear of confronting the issue with the guilty one which appears to be biggest issue. Being afraid it will only make things worse and be of no usefulness , does not make it go away. So if it is not resolved, it will become more intense and harder to repair. What exist sometimes is the approach and the method used to confront an issue of this nature and then sometimes it doesn’t matter how it is confronted; it doesn’t work. That is when an intervention of professional help could be deferment in a situation like this. It may be easy to work through but if you don’t try, you will not know and this stands true with any given change in ones life. We have to begin before we can resolve. We have to see the need to change before we take action, but we must take action. Once we see the need and let go of the fear we can find an alternative that may work. There is nothing in life that can’t be resolved with some kind of solution, it might not be what we desire, but not trying is the greatest failure.

March 5, 2010

Personal Progress -Change Is About Self Discipline And For Those Who Need It!

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Personal growth or personal development means many different things to each of us. We are all different individuals and it takes a wise person to see they might have flaws and need to growth or change in some of their actions. Personal growth is about us and our expectations of us. The most important aspect of personal growth is how you feel about yourself. Do you see yourself relating to others, be it family, friends or co-workers appropriately? Are you living your life totally, completely and in line with how you think you should? Are you happy with how you deal with life or do you see yourself needing to change some things? Positive Changes does not indicate we are necessarily bad. It does not mean that we are debilitated in our life or living an inappropriate life but that we want to live a more durable life.

Another individual cannot tell you that you are in need of Personal Growth. It is a conscious decision that one makes for ones self. Opposition is part of deciding if this is where we need to go. Sometimes we see the need to grow when life has thrown us a curve and we can’t get back on track, we need to learn something about whom we are and why we are reacting the way we are. Sometimes it is about success in our life; success we do not think that we have. We are not where we want to be and we need help to remove the obstacles that seem to be standing in the way.

I have seen very egotistical people who seemed to think they know all the right ways and it is their way or no way. It seems that the people who need personal growth the most are carrying around baggage and do not even realize it. They are baffled, intolerant and suspicious of others or they would not be trying to prove they know it all. No one knows it all, not today, not yesterday nor will they tomorrow. It does not matter how intelligent one is; it is how they relate themselves to other people. They think everyone else is lacking and they feel all of their expertise is being wasted. When in all actuality; their expertise is not visible due to their attitude.

To see the need for personal growth means you are seeking either recovery or possibly purification from something or someone. Maybe it is only that you need to change the way you perceive something that has changed you life. Influencing your self awareness can’t be all bad. It actually means you have depth of wanting to beautify your soul. You could be doing everything suitably and everybody is happy, including yourself, but in reality; probably not. I am afraid that not many of us are happy all the time. Life isn’t all wine and roses and happiness is a frame of mind and begins within us like everything else….how many time have I said all of this begins within us?

If we are happy the way we are it means we have comprehended something very important. When we get to this state in our life and we feel a sense of accomplishment; it bring contentment and a feeling of being at peace with ourselves and others.

March 1, 2010

How Does Accomplishment And Personal Growth Blend

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Is Success within reach without Personal Growth? I do not think that it is and that is my perception. I do not remember reading anything that has said this in so many words but yet what I have read and concluded is that most successful people have somewhere had to look from within their own backyard to find the tools to ignite their own success. Having noticed many successful individuals, those that are the most successful seem to have found a certain medium and level of inner peace and strength about themselves. They do not copy anyone’s persona, purpose or actions; they became their own person without any apologies. They seemed to know the path they should take and did not allow other people’s opinion to push them in a different direction. If we are to have our Vision be successful we must be who we are not someone else.

As we study about Personal Growth and Success; we find professional information which suggest that Success is not something we actually attain and we’re done. Success is defined as a journey, something we work on daily, with zest and enthusiasm. That is, if we are sincere about and into what we are trying to accomplish. Personal Growth I believe has to start and as we grow in certain areas of our life; it helps us as we travel on our journey toward Success. It would be wonderful if we were all born perfect, not just physically but also mentally. That’s a joke, right? Not many of us are genius…but some are so intelligent that they hold back thinking someone is going to call them a nerd…you know, too smart and doesn’t have any fun and I have read that. These intelligent individuals must work toward their self confidence and not care exactly what other people think. Why does it matter, what others think? If you are blessed, share it, let others know you have something to give, do not be ashamed of a “talent”, a “blessing”. It is just as important to use your intelligence as it is for those who are challenged to work to be less challenged. If one who is not challenged helps someone who is; they both benefit. Of course it must be accepted help. Some of us are challenged for one reason or another and it makes us have to work harder but I am a firm believer that we all have the same potential on some levels; we have to find what is right for us and how we do it best.

I read something recently that actually indicates that most of the time we do not use our full brain power. We are in the habit of doing certain things everyday and we do it without thinking and in fact we are in such a habit that we are not adequately living our life; we are stuck in the unconscious. Seems kind of like a wakeup call is needed and I can relate to this message. I believe to be successful and work toward our personal growth endeavorswe need to be in the now; pure consciousness and relate to what we do every minute of our lives. We do not want something wonderful to pass us by. How can we start on our path of success if we are not conscious of what we are doing most of the time? We can’t, so our first step is becoming conscious of what we are doing, become aware of our daily activities. Are we spending too much time day dreaming and never putting our dreams to work? Are we going around with this hum drum; poor me way of thinking instead of looking within our self to see if we are lacking the courage to begin? Are we afraid of failure? Probably and …mistakes and doing it wrong the first time, is how we learn and grow and become better, personally and professionally. If we never failed or made mistakes…whichever you want to call it…we would not grown and learn. Personal growth is just as much a part of Success as consuming food is to our living.

Growing professionally will take us where we want to go and help us achieve what we need to accomplish our goals.

February 11, 2010

Beyond Loss And Delusion

Filed under: Recovery — Tags: — User2 @ 10:19 pm

This is a subject we do not like to talk about and rightfully so, especially if it is ours. This is quite normal I think, and talking about it does not change it. Taking steps to overcome the dead emotions which failure sometimes brings must be dealt with for us to recover and get back on the road to success “after failure”.

Everybody makes errors and fails at sometimes in their life. If they tell you they have never had “failure”, they are telling a big one, I think. It is a characteristic aspect of life and it isn’t going to change. It does not have to be anything big or detrimental to living a good life, but if we are human, we can look back and see some places, we could have done a whole lot better.

Sometimes we make wrong decisions because we gave up on something before we gave it time to work. We fail sometimes because we look at others and what they have done, not realizing that we cannot compare our own life’s work to anybody; we must strive for our own way of and pursuing life things. Anything we do in life must have a plan, a starting point, a progression period and then the final results. Personal Growthis something that we all need at some point in our life. Sometimes we must change our path during our progress and that is why we do an assessment every now and then. Take for instance a marriage. When we get married, we have a plan to work at it, make it beautiful, and feed it with passion and know it takes some give and take. Yet so many times we forget ,we get busy with other life things and forget to feed it, we forget it needs care, sometimes more later, than sooner. What do you know; somebody is unhappy out the blue. Sometimes it is too late, sometimes it can be fixed and sometimes it seems too much neglect was the final draw and we have to deal with what we call “failure”

Someone who is lazy and doesn’t want to work for what they get…could be called a failure. Life is not going to just supply any of us anything. It doesn’t work that way. We must work for our , as nothing is free. An addiction is another aspect we can call failure; it doesn’t have to be drugs or alcohol. It can be spending too much money; it can be spending too much time on the job. It can be taking too much time off the job, you know; sick days; too many of them; all of a sudden, no job. It can be giving someone else a hard time and not having respect for our fellow man. Whatever it is named; if it is done often can be called failure…we can overcome it and “live again” if we take thought to our needs. In our Change we need to look at all aspects of our situation and not get too down on ourselves.

How do we begin to get our life on tract after failure? When it happens we have to really analyze if it is truly “failure”. Sometimes mistakes get named failure. If we keep doing something over and over and it winds up costing us great repercussions it is likely failure and not just a mistake. A mistake is something you did unintentionally and you normally do not do it again. We learn from our mistakes and take them as part of life to help us grow. If we repeatedly do something it is time for us to get a professional to help us find out why we are duplicating the same things over and over before it cost us too much.

To me and I am not giving you professional therapy, you must seek that yourself, but I am giving you hope that there is help and I have seen healing for our failures through personal growthif we want it. To me, failure is where one has repeatedly doing something that they knew was causing themselves harm or someone else and they do it anyway. There is still a way to begin again. There is always hope until we die and we can be healed of our failures and become new again. There are Therapist, Counselors and Psychologists who are trained to help us in our endeavors as well a Personal Growth experts. I am not either but I do love to see recovery and study self improvement and I work on myself everyday….I’m not perfect …doubt I will ever be but at least I am working on me!

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