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August 25, 2010

Personal Development – Do Self Affirmations Actually Work?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 3:52 am

Do positive self affirmations really work? The short answer is ‘No’ – unless you’ve got a few years to spare and a heavy-duty supply of perseverance. The problem is that self-affirmation is directed at the conscious mind and, sadly, your conscious mind has absolutely nothing to do with how you behave, how you react to people and situations, how you see life in general or, most importantly, the way in which you view yourself. However, as we’ve said, if you throw enough muck at your conscious mind, sooner or later – in fact, definitely later – some of that muck will eventually stick and make some kind of reasonable impression on your subconscious mind. However, you’d have to stick at it religiously and, even then, you’d be facing an uphill war of attrition because your subconscious mind will simply not believe what it’s being told if its view of reality is contrary. How come? Your subconscious mind controls your beliefs, behaviours and reactions and actually creates your very own version of reality. Self-affirmation is like trying to throw snowballs at hell’s fiery furnace!!

However, if you really do want to change your life, some part of your life, or change yourself, your own self esteem or some distasteful behaviour or bad habit, it’s your subconscious mind that you must impress. It holds all the keys, has its hands on all the levers and its feet on all the pedals that either get your life moving forward or, more often than not, grind to an absolute and juddering halt.

In order to impress your subconscious mind, you will have to become just like a little child again – not childish but childlike. When you were young you paid full attention to the reality of the here and now, using each of your five senses – that is how you learned your current set of beliefs about the world and who you think you are. As an adult, you now pay little or no attention to reality today – your subconscious mind kinda makes your reality up for you as it goes along! – with all the normal consequences. You’ve got to get real, to relearn how to pay more attention to what is before your very eyes, instead of paying attention to your subconscious baggage that’s weighing you down.

The normal subconscious mind is wallowing in the past. And the key to your future is to be found in the present. You must understand that the present moment is the only place and time where life is truly lived. In other words, you have to re-learn how to pay attention to what’s really going on, not what your subconscious mind, looking through its dirty lens of past events, thinks is going on. This re-learning process means training yourself how to pay attention to what you see, feel, hear, smell and taste. This training must be undertaken in a quiet place so that, when the wheels starting coming off in the so-called real world, you’re fighting fit and ready to perform in a way that will lead you onwards and upwards towards the life that you really want.

August 24, 2010

Personal Growth And The Oneness Of Spirit, Mind And Body

Filed under: Beginning Recovery — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 7:18 am

I often find it difficult to explore some of the central ideas in what might be termed personal development or self improvement given that everyday language and words prove inadequate. For example, do the words ‘universal energy’ adequately capture the fact that you and I are energy, living in a world and universe comprised solely of vibrating energy and that energy is responsive? Does the sobriquet ‘Law of Attraction’ mean different things to different people? And where are the boundaries between mind, body and spirit?

In fact, of course, there are no boundaries between mind, body and spirit in the same way that there are no limits between us individually and the universe of which we each comprise an indispensable and intergal part. We are not just part of a whole, when it comes to us as individuals, there is just one – mind, body and spirit are simply artificially imagined aspects of the one. This is important because, when you consider the facts in this manner, it is obvious that our thoughts have an immediate impact on how we feel physically and mentally. For example, when one dissects the problem of stress and its very real physical results, we realize that our thoughts directly cause shifts in body temperature and heart rate, changes in the creation and release of a whole range of chemicals all of which, if unchecked, lead to serious illnesses – such as heart attack and stroke – and, if seriously out of control, will lead to untimely death.

My point us this. Our state of mind has a direct impact on the mental state of others around us – this has been proven many times by research in the field of psychology. How much more does our state of mind affect us, ourselves? Your health, fitness and wellbeing are all direct consequences of your mental state. Even your weight – your inclination to put on too much of it or a variety of eating disorders from bulimia to anorexia – is a direct consequence of what is going on in your head.

And what is going on in your head is directly within your own control – or can be if you make the effort to make the simplest and, ultimately, most liberating decision that we can all make as responsible adults – choosing your own thoughts. The normal mind is tortured by ineffective thoughts, most of which emerge from the subconscious. Research concludes that the normal subconscious focuses on the events of our childhood years and is more likely to focus on the more negative events. That is our default state of mind. That is not to say that we can’t choose what we’ll pay attention to, however.

You’re your own boss. Your life, in all its aspects, is created by what you’re paying attention to – whether you know it or not. The ultimate and powerful choice that I’ve just mentioned can be taken, day to day, each moment, by deciding to pay attention to the actual sensory experience of the here and now. This is the only cast-iron way of stopping your own subconscious wallowing in self-sabotaging thoughts. No other way is as effective, no other way gives you the power to completely transform your fitness, your health, your wellness, your personal effectiveness and, ultimately, your ability to live a life of peace, happiness and unbelievable success.

June 28, 2010

Self Help Hypnosis- Can Eliminate Stress

Filed under: Recovery — Tags: — User2 @ 12:50 am

Are you continuously under some type of stress? Then what you should know is that stress is a critical well being challenge that can cause more severe circumstances if left unchecked. This is the explanation why it’s best to immediately search for a solution to your stress in the event you really feel that it’s already taking on your life. There are completely different sources of stress in our lives.

Work, family and different private affairs can all cause stress. There are people who find themselves weak to stress than others and people react to stress differently.
If you’re consistently under stress then you will undoubtedly profit from self-hypnosis. This sort of hypnosis is among the only techniques in getting rid of anxiety and stress. The very best factor about self-hypnosis is that just about anybody can learn how to do it.

And after you have discovered tips on how to hypnotize yourself, you are able to do it anywhere and anytime.

All you need is ten minutes by your self and you can already say goodbye to nervousness and stress. The very first thing that you want to do earlier than you start a self-hypnosis session is to be as calm and as relaxed as possible. This might be onerous to do if you end up feeling so wired but a good course in self-hypnosis will teach efficient ways on how one can make yourself feel relaxed in the soonest doable way.

Self-hypnosis may have different effects on completely different people. There are people who will experience immediate reduction in self-hypnosis while there are those who would require more apply in an effort to see some constructive results. If you are open to self-hypnosis and in case you are patient sufficient to wait for it to take effect the for certain you will feel some optimistic change in your life by way of this very highly effective self-assist technique.

If you wish to be taught self-hypnosis then you could know that there are a lot of programs out there both on-line or in a real classroom setting with a reside instructor. There are not any prerequisites to learning self-hypnosis, just open your mind to the possibilities that it could actually deliver to your life to maximize your experience with self-hypnosis.
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March 2, 2010

Tips For Smokers Who Want To Quit

Filed under: smoking — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 9:48 am

Tip #1: Tell others when you will stop smoking.

If you tell other people when you will quit smoking, then you will will be more motivated and committed. Ensure that you are surrounded by people with positive attitudes who want to see you succeed.

You don’t want to tell every single person you know because some people may judge you and make you feel bad about your current situation. So, choose the people wisely in terms of who to tell when you quit smoking cigarettes.

Tip #2: Know exactly why you want to quit.

Take some time off to reflect on the deep reason that you want to stop smoking cigarettes. Initially, you may say that you want to quit just for health reasons. But don’t just stop there. Keep going deeper and finding the core reason you want to stop smoking cigarettes.

Once you establish your own deep rooted reason (which I like to call your inner why), you will have that clarity that you need in order to succeed. You will have that extra motivation to go out there and do whatever it takes to make your goals a reality.

Tip #3: Keep a water bottle with you at all times.

Every time you have an urge to smoke, you need to find something to occupy your mind and body. A simple replacement is to drink water. Drinking water is healthy, cheap, and easy. So anytime you have a desire to smoke, then get that water bottle and drink some water. In the beginning, this may seem difficult, but you will soon get used to it.

Tip #4: Spend more time with people who don’t smoke.

One of the biggest reasons people smoke is because the people they hang out with are smokers as well. So, you want to end this cycle. Start to hang out with people who don’t smoke. Spend more time with non-smokers than smokers. You will feel more pressure not to smoke when you are with your non-smoking friends.

At first, this may seem uncomfortable, but there is power in influence through those that you spend the most time with. That’s because you become like the five closest people that you hang out with most on a consistent basis. So, call up your non-smoking friends and tell them that you would love to see them more often.

Tip #5: Your first target should be 21 days without smoking.

People can establish a new habit if they do something for 21 days in a row. That means after you quit for 21 days in a row, it will be more natural to not smoke than to smoke. Just realize that the earliest stage will be the most difficult; that is the most important part of the journey.
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February 4, 2010

Seeing As Change Is Inevitable, Why Not Embrace It?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 7:30 am

The issue with change is not so much what we think of change, but rather how we react to change. In all honesty, there are probably few words that throw up such a kaleidoscope of emotions and differing interpretations for us.

In some ways, change is exciting. We all want our lives to improve, after all, there is no progress without change. However, the word also holds some very negative connotations.

If you look up synonyms for ‘changeable’ you will find words such as: ‘volatile’, ‘uncertain’, ‘unsettled’, ‘unstable’. All of those can make us feel ‘insecure’, ‘vulnerable’ and ‘unsure’.

There is a part of us which likes to feel secure and safe and change clearly goes against that. However, after change has occurred, we very often call it ‘progress’, ‘evolution’, ‘advancement’ or ‘growth’; words which bring out far more positive emotions from within us.

Therefore, it appears that it is not change itself that scares us so much as the transition process that it entails. We like the stability of things as they are ‘now’. Now feels safe because we know what to expect.

Perhaps it is not change that we fear so much as the loss of control that we associate with change. Change inherently carries an element of risk. Sometimes that fear, that perceived risk, is so daunting that it prevents us making changes that we need to despite our unhappiness with our current situation.

At the other end of the scale, there are times when we have probably all been guilty of making changes just for the sake it. We change our hair color, we change the layout of our bedroom, we may even change jobs.

I used to change jobs every 4 months, as I couldn’t find the ‘right job’ for me. At some level, I believed that when I found the ‘right job’ I would be happy. However, it was then pointed out to me that you can move to the moon if you want but nothing will really change because you are still taking ‘You’ with you.

Why do we do that? We do it to distract ourselves from making the changes in our life that really matter. In reality, it might be our choice of career that is making us unhappy, but we will change the color of our hair ‘just to make ourselves feel better’, because that is an ‘easy change’.

Seeing as change is inevitable, why not embrace it, analyze it and use it? Use it as an opportunity to measure what your life, and course correct. Seize change as your key to success. How else are we going to grow?

As a final point, I will give you a quote by Charles Darwin: “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
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This article was edited and distributed by Mark Walters on behalf of Mandy Swift, who was the original author. Learn More : Secrets Of Success

December 17, 2009

5 Majestic Way To Form Ideas From Zilch

Filed under: Recovery — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 12:03 pm

In our Current World, life can get really busy and really quick. We waste a lot of time and energy running around, and also place a lot of value on our left brains – our rational minds. This will give you powerful help for ideas your can put to work right away.

In spite of all this, somewhere, bottomless in our souls, we know the significance of slowing down and connecting to our interior wisdom, connecting to our right brains – that place of profound intuition and inspiration that holds so many answers and so much richness for us.

Here is a catalog of my absolute preferred top 5 ways to really settle in and listen to the treasury of wisdom that your heart and soul has for you. None of them need to take up a lot of time or energy! Connecting to your personal wisdom can be simple and flowing. For ideas don’t come easy and quickly with no action on your part.

1) Journaling: To cut through the mind’s chitter chatter and get straight to your inner wisdom, journaling works best if you write quick, without stopping, without worrying about grammar or language, or even full sentences. The name of the game is here is to write quickly without judgement or even thought, and see what comes up for you. It helps to start with a aggressive phrase like: “I am a woman who…..” or “I am here….”

2) Dancing: I’m not talking about social dancing. This type of dancing that really connects you to your inner wisdom is done alone, or with one person watching you. Put on music that moves you, close your eyes, take a few profound breathes to feel into your body, and start moving. Be open to where the movements want to take you, and the emotions and visions that come up and out of you as you move. After you finish your movement, taking a few moments to share your experience with a partner or write your experience will help you put your inner wisdom that emerged into words.

3)Drawing: You don’t need any formal training in art whatsoever to connect to your interior wisdom through drawing. Come to the blank paper without any preconceived thinking or judgement or ideas, and draw what comes to mind. Draw how you feel. Or, ask you internal wisdom a question, and then draw it out. For example, asking a question as simple as “What do I need to know right now?” can yield rich imagery that might hold some interesting answers for you.

4) Visualization: Visualization can be as simple as closing your eyes, and calling forth your wise self. See her and and ask her questions. You’ll be surprised at what can come to light!

5) Breathing: Taking just a few minutes to sit still, close your eyes and concentrate on your breathe, can really help you to slow down, get settled, and begin to really connect with your body, to sense and feel into yourself. My suggestion is to very consciously focus on each part of your body, sending breathe to each part, and ask yourself how you feel. Become aware of where you feel open and where you feel closed. Connecting to your body in this way is a delightful opportunity to get present. For ideas are the thinks all other things come from ans with out the thought before the action nothing is all you get.

November 10, 2009

Eliminating Your Addiction With Self-Help Tapes Asap!

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 6:30 am

Self improvement tapes help you to achieve your goal of quitting by detailed instructions. Full audio support can make a difference when you don’t have the time for lengthy therapy sessions and just don’t have the privilege of affording them. I have included some of the data’s which the tapes features and what it could do to help you along the way.

Hypnosis is an amazing tool for self-help. There is nothing as pleasant as allowing yourself to sink into a nice and easy trance and meditation from hypnosis and guided imagery. This self-esteem hypnosis tape is dedicated to helping you gain control over your life and your health by just sitting back and allowing the guided imagery to lead you to a healthy life and general self-esteem.

This self-esteem hypnosis tape is a safe and effortless way to aid in your goal to better health by inducing a trance state. It should be used at least a couple of times a day. It is important to find a quiet and secure place to listen to this hypnosis tape. It should never be played while operating a car and works best in complete isolation.

Pets often find a trance inducing tool such as this self-help tape intriguing and will try and be part of it so make sure they are out of the room before listening. I would also suggest that you keep the room semi-dark for the best trance quality. Allow yourself not to work hard at “doing it right.” All you need to do is let yourself go and enjoy the meditation trance state that develops naturally.

The self help tape or a CD “Attain and experience Inner Peace with -Tools For Balanced Living”. Is an example. “Tools For Balanced Living” is a Mindfulness Practice that guides you toward personal insight, body awareness, yoga postures and meditation. The Sedona Method will show you how to tap your natural ability to let go of any unwanted thought or feeling on the spot even when you are right in the middle of life’s greatest challenges.

This will free you to quickly and easily have all that you choose including the following: unshakable inner security, more money, better relationships, more radiant health and well being, more effective goal achievement plus break bad habits and other self-sabotaging behaviors, lose weight, stop smoking and sleep better.

THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY by by Susan Jeffers. Arrow (1987) 1991. How to turn your fear and indecision into confidence and action. As well as “OUR OWN HANDS – A BOOK OF SELF-HELP THERAPY” by Sheila Ernst and Lucy Goodison describes all kinds of therapy, from bodywork to psychoanalytically-based therapies, shows with sensitivity and clarity how to use those techniques which can actually free us and help us, and gives exercises to use in a self-help situation.

It is also important to realize that this meditation self-help and self-esteem tape is only one highly effective aid in your plan to induce self-esteem successfully. A good dietary program, exercise, and acupuncture will make your self-help program permanent over time. All you need is to assess the problems you need to focus on first as there are a lot of self-help topics which these audio books have.

Due to the fact that they all do have good results doesn’t mean you don’t need to chose which is right for you. Handpicking your choices can make a better difference and you can do it at your own home.

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6 Tips For Quitting Smoking

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 12:15 am

If you are currently a smoker, quitting the habit could be one of the most important things you will ever do in the next part of your life. In fact, if you quit now, you will most likely be adding seven years to your life.

While many people try to quit and fail, it is not an impossible task. Thousands of people, just like you, have decided to quit and have succeeded. You too can be among the successful former-smokers. Here are six tips that will help you to quit smoking once and for all:

1. Make a vow that you are going to quit smoking from today onwards

Success in all spheres of life begins with firm determination. If you are wishy-washy you can never do anything. However, if you make up your mind, once and for all, that you are giving up the habit, whenever a craving comes, you will remember your vow and not give in.

2. Exercise more and get your body in shape

If you sit idle there is more chance that you will light up your cigarette and relax. Fill your spare time with sports and vigorous activity. Try to feel how good it is to get your blood circulating and breathing the air deeply. If you are not the athletic type, then brisk walking will have the same benefit as other kinds of sports.

3. Avoid places and pastimes that put you within reach of cigarettes

If going to a bar or pub means that you are going to have a drink and then light up, maybe it is better to avoid that place for the time being. Once you have truly stopped smoking and you feel how good it is, you can go anywhere and not be tempted. But while you are in the transition phase it is better to carefully choose where you will spend your recreational time.

4. If you have to put something in your mouth, drink water or eat healthy snacks

Whenever you get a desire to put a cigarette in your mouth, replace it with something that will help you rather than harm you. Drinking small amounts of water throughout the day is not only a good way to help you quit smoking, but it is also a great way to stay healthy. You should drink 4 litres (quarts) of water per day, if you can. If you need to put something solid in your mouth, then eat a piece of fruit.

5. Get support from your friends and family

Tell them that you are giving up smoking for health reasons. Your true friends will support you and not offer you cigarettes. Your family and loved ones will similarly support your efforts and help you to avoid situations where you may feel obliged to smoke out of social pressure.

6. Strengthen your will power with yoga and meditation

Very few people are born with perfect will-power. Like anything else, practice makes perfect. If you want to strengthen a physical muscle you may work out with weights. If you want to strengthen your “mental muscle” you need exercise as well. Yoga and meditation are disciplines that enable even complete beginners to build up their capacity to concentrate and firmly accomplish whatever they set out to do. Try it out and see for yourself.

Follow these six tips and you will be well on your way to quitting smoking.

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Are You A Negative Thinker?

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Barbara sought my help because of her chronic fatigue. She had been going to different kinds of doctors and trying different nutrition plans for years and nothing was helping her. One of the doctors suggested that she try psychotherapy.

In became evident early in our work together than Barbara was deeply addicted to thinking the worst. Constant negativity went through her mind about every aspect of her life. She would get out of her car and worry about getting robbed. In social situations, she would tell herself that people didn’t like her. She was always worried about money, even though she was a successful graphic designer. Her husband could never do anything right. There was something wrong with every doctor she saw.

Negative thinking causes much stress in the body. I told Barbara to imagine that she was telling these negative thoughts to a child. How would the child feel most of the time? Barbara could see that this child would, of course, feel anxious and stressed much of the time in response to all the negativity and catastrophic thinking.

The medical profession has long told us that stress is one of the leading causes of illness. Stress sets into motion the body’s fight or flight response, pouring cortisol into the body and eventually exhausting the adrenal glands. Adrenal exhaustion can be one of the results of so much negative thinking.

While Barbara could understand the possible effect her negative thinking was having on her health, it was extremely challenging for her to give up her negative thinking. Barbara deeply believed that her negative thinking kept her safe from disappointment. She believed that thinking the negative thought before the bad thing would happen prepared her to deal with it. She didn’t want to be caught off guard. She believed that she could not handle the pain of disappointment, so that if she knew about it ahead of time and actually expected it, she wouldn’t feel disappointed.

In addition, Barbara believed that if she was vigilant enough and thought through all the bad things that could happen, she could prevent them. She believed that by thinking ahead, she could somehow have control over the outcome of things.

Finally, Barbara also believed that she could control how people felt about her by acting right and saying the right thing. She was constantly vigilant about her behavior with others in her attempts to control how they felt about her and treated her.

However, in trying to control her feelings, others’ feelings and the outcome of things, Barbara may have been causing her illness. The underlying cause of her negative thinking was her devotion to this control.

The problem with all of this is that it is based on an illusion – the illusion of control. The fact is that Barbara could not foresee every event that could cause her some pain. She was devastated every time something happened that she had not thought of beforehand. How could something painful come out of the blue like that? How could she have not foreseen it?

The paradox of all of this is that, in trying to foresee future catastrophes, Barbara was not present in the moment. Real safety is in being present in the moment so we can respond appropriately to whatever is happening in the moment. When we are fully present in the moment, we are available to receiving information from our inner Guidance. All of us have a Source of Guidance that is always available to us, and that is here to help us and protect us. But we can access our Guidance only when we are fully present in the moment, not when we are trying to control the future.

Barbara is in the process of becoming more aware of her negative thinking. She is not yet healthy, but she has some better days now, days that are lighter and more fun.

Moving out of negative thinking is a process that takes time. If you are a negative thinker, you have been practicing this form of thinking your whole life. It is not going to stop in a day. But if you tune into the stress you feel and learn to connect your stress with your negative thinking, you can slowly change this pattern.

Vitality and joy can be the result of letting go of your negative thinking and learning to be present in the moment.

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November 9, 2009

Are You A Time User Or A Time Waster?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Tags: , , , , — User2 @ 6:15 pm

If you are like me, you’ve often wished there were 48 hours in a day instead of just 24. There never seems to be enough time to get everything done that you want. Since we just have about 16 hours a day not counting sleep time, it’s important how we use the time we have.

On the average, people waste about 2 hours a day. This is mainly from poor planning. If a person is unorganized, they waste time trying to find things, they miss appointments, they only do one thing at a time when they could be doing two.

Good time management is a major building block to success. Oftentimes, it’s not how much time we spend working but how efficiently we do the work. The key to successful time management is careful planning and setting priorities.

Plan your day, your week, and your month in advance. Know when things need to be done. A great way to “buy time” is to multi-task. Do more than one thing at a time. There are many things that do not require concentrated mental effort. These are more easily combined.

“Failing to plan is planning to fail,”

- unknown

Even though I am a big pro football fan, I can’t justify sitting down and spending three hours watching a game. I have to be doing other things while I do it. Thank goodness for instant replay! I’ve found this is a good time to spend icing injuries or some other busy work. I can also record the games and watch them while exercising. I exercise about 30 minutes a day so during the football season I can watch a game during the week without wasting any time doing it.

When you run errands try to do as many as you can on one trip. If you are self-employed, you can combine personal errands that are on the way to a business errand and have the mileage written off as a business expense.

I’ve been fortunate to have been able to work at home for the past ten years. It’s been great because I hate to waste time commuting. If you must commute, you can use the time to listen to audio self-improvement tapes, audio books or anything educational.

If you are a regular exerciser and belong to a gym, think about working out at home. If you lack the space and money for exercise equipment, try traditional body weight exercises. A little research on the Internet can show you websites devoted to this subject. Even though I lifted weights for 20 years, I’ve converted to body weight exercises. I’ve found they feel better and get the same if not better results. Of course, if you go to the gym to socialize or network, that’s okay. You’re doing more than one thing at a time. You can go walking with your wife. That way you’re getting exercise and husband / wife interaction at the same time.

Setting priorities enables you to get the most important things done. Keep you eye on the big picture. Don’t let low priority things bump off the higher priority tasks from your schedule. If you’ve only got so much time, it’s imperative you spend your time doing the things that bring you the most benefit.

“Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.”

– Goethe

Time is so precious. If you want to be successful in life you need to be spending more time being productive and doing things that are moving you forward. Spending hours a day watching TV, playing computer games, or surfing the Internet is not productive time usage. We all need downtime but you need to determine how much is really necessary. If you use your productive time efficiently then you will have more time to relax and do the fun things.

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